Category: Writers Block
This was something that happened to me 7 years ago, and call me crazy,
but I celebrate the anniversary.
On December 18, 2008, it was an ordinary school day: going to class and
minding my business. Everything went as planned until 2:45 pm. I was at
a French club meeting. I had a friend who went to these meetings, but on
this particular day she couldn't. She and I would usually walk to the bus
together. Since she couldn't attend this particular meeting, she said she
would come look for me once I got outside. When it was time for me to
leave, however, I didn't ask for help or anything. I just got up and left the
classroom. I went out the wrong door. I didn't hear any voices or any
clues that I was near buses. I was wandering around, and then a car
pulled up and the window rolled down. It was my case worker. She was
thinking what am I doing standing there. I told her I was looking for the
late buses, and she just said get in the car. She couldn't park the car to
walk me anywhere because we were in a bad spot, so she and I just drove
to the main entrance of the school. It turns out that I was in the parking
lot. It was a teachers' parking lot that I was in, nowhere near the buses.
My friend was freaking out because she couldn't find me. She was calling
and texting me and I wasn't getting back to her because I didn't know
where I was or what to tell her. She left me a voice mail freaking out.
She said she couldn't get off the bus and she didn't know what to do. She
told a security guard she couldn't find me, and he just told her to get on
the bus. She also told the bus driver she couldn't find me, and the driver
just looked in the same places where my friend looked, and she told the
driver that. After that, the driver just left. Anyway, when I got back in
the school, I had to stay after for the next late buses. The vice principal
stayed after with me. My case worker said she would have, but the vice
principal said she would which was nice. My case worker was getting
ready to go home for the day when she saw me standing there. Instead of
just leaving the classroom, I could have asked for help. I could have told
the teacher I had to leave at 2:45 and asked her to have another student
help me. My case manager was at the right place at the right time which
was good. As far as my friend not being able to get off the bus, that was
not handled properly. The driver could have called the school and had me
paged. She could have waited a little bit longer. The main thing though is
that I was safe.
The main thing though, is, that you were just as clueless and helpless seven years ago as you are today. Congratulations for the lack of progress. Truly phenomenal.
Ooh, I'm gonna go celebrate the fact that 17 years ago, I had pizza.
I confess that I...don't get why this is something to celebrate.
If you honestly weren't sure where you were going and were fumbling around, then at least I'm glad you didn't get hurt. Since this has happened, I hope you've gotten more cautious.
If, on the other hand, it was a simple mistake, a mistake you normally know how to avoid...well, we all have brain farts sometimes. I've been deep in my own head on a route before, turned left instead of right, and then gotten confused when landmarks didn't make sense...though usually that doesn't happen.
Even the most competent of us can get lost because of overconfidence or because of a silly mistake. Personally, though, unless this sort of experience really straightened me out or something, made me realize just how scary it is to get lost - I have had such an experience, btw - I'd probably just want to forget about it.
Incidentally, my scary experience happened about twelve and a half years ago or thereabouts. Couldn't tell you the day. I can only tell you that it involved a large university campus with which I wasn't wholly familiar, a ton of snow, fences, a parking lot, and a whole lot of quiet.
I hope you are buying new pizza, not eating what was left over from 17 years ago.
Yeah I just didn't know where I was going.
wow... emotionally immature, not capable of pouring/carrying soup, can't be
bothered to check a mug, loses expensive things and doesn't look for them right
away and now doesn't know where she's going. what's next?
lmao! another useless board post? This is almost spamming.
Seriously. this is getting fucking spammy. Can this bitch just be banned.
Did anyone else notice that this isn't even the anniversary date of this so-called "incident"?
OP says that this episode took place on 18 December... she posted it on 21 November...
that's hardly the "anniversary" date... by my calculations, she's a month out.
Again, guys, let's not conflate things.
Some of us are not as well-equipped to handle stuff, and mocking/suggesting AppleGirl should be banned might be a bit on the high side, if you ask me.
AppleGirl, I do want to offer you a tip:
If you don't know where you're going, then don't go.
It sounds obvious and kind of simplified when I put it that way, but it's true. If you get lost or aren't sure where you've gotten yourself, stop. Stay still. Don't keep wandering. Your idea might be to get yourself out of a bad situation, and maybe you can..but depending on how far into unknown territory you've gotten, just wandering around can be the worst thing you can do. If nothing else, stop, stand still and think about your route. Retrace your steps, and try and make your way back to familiar ground by turning around and going back the way you came.
And, I hope this goes without saying, but if you really and truly don't know where you're going, don't merrily waltz off and act as if you do. It is far better to admit you don't know where to go than it is to take off on your own, looking confident, and then get yourself lost.
So yeah. In a nutshell let's keep these issues separate, because they -are separate. I've known people who are perfectly capable in one area who have weaknesses in another. And I've also known people who have a lot of weak areas when it isn't precisely their fault. The only thing to be done in a case like that is to try and patch up those weaknesses before harm is done. Scorn and mockery won't help. it'll just make you, the ones doing the mocking, look immature and petty and self-righteous.
I really don't understand... Why would someone look back on positively/want to share a story like this. It would be like me telling you guys a random story about when I did something stupid when I was a kid... This is just normal, regular every day life stuff.
Exactly, if that's the fucking case, let's all create stupid board post after post after post, and I promise you that the people who are suggesting she not get banned for this will change their mind.
Like I said before, it would be different if she was posting legit shit, and wanted help with something like, maybe her tips for soup board, but this here is just getting ridiculous.
A few years ago I yelled fire. there was no fire. Therefore I got fired.
Ant there's my useless contribution of the year. Let's celebrate.
At least Shepherd Wolf is nice about it. Sometimes, you guys just like to insult people, don't you?
Come on and wake up kids! Lately, the people with blindness, including me, are also stuck with learning disabilities and other things. That's no reason to treat her like something on your shoe! I got a feeling I'd not get along with at least, half of you!
When you get into trouble, ask someone else. This: "I'm so much better than you," shit, is getting on my nerves. Let's bann all posts about discrimination and rants about mistreatment, and even my posts!
You think you're that much better, and that's why I think you aren't. I'll remember how you insult people who have trouble that you don't, next time I post. If I'd seen this, Scarlet, I'd not post my warning on your board! But, you idealistic jerks, are gonna learn from experience that it's not as cut and dry, as you make it! And, though I will be a support, I won't feel as sorry for you, when you get stuck, and nobody's there for you. You know all the answers, so why do you even post here? Scarlet, and others, don't ask my advice. I'm disgusted that some blind people are so judging of others. I'd hate to see what happened, if you had kids with severe disabilities! Would you tell them how they need to "Get over it!"?
And, you wonder why people don't post up here as much? They know better than to take abuse from fellow blind people. So, you just wallow in your posting, and don't worry. Party or whatever makes you happy! I'll talk to people who aren't so rude and actually give a crap about themselves. And, so you know, all you that think you're so much better, it usually comes back to bite you in the back end. I don't know how many "Cool people" I know, are working in sheltered workshops, because, they were under the false impression they were that much better than "the average blind person," whatever average is. Kind of up there with normal, don't you think?
Have a nice time. Oh, so you don't misunderstand, I did NOT threaten anyone. I just told the truth. So, if one of you complains, I have my defense. If you get me kicked off here, well, hope you're happy. Because, I'm sick of how you mistreat others. I'm glad I don't go to school. They seem to have stopped teaching kindness and respect.
Sarah
Okay guys, we all have disabilities, some more than just blindness. Don't forget if you don't like somebody's board posts, ignore them, that is why it is there. People say they don't ignore because they think it is a cop out. Not so, it is an adult way to remove yourself from controversary. Seems like if something bugs somebody a lot and they would rather bitch then ignore the person, well you are just lowering yourselves to the behavior being bitched about.
I don't like to take sides or get in the middle of stuff, so sick and tired of drama over shit that doesn't matter, life is way too short. Ignore her board posts and go on with life. We as people who live with blindness ought to be a little more open minded and accepting of one another because we have all been on the receiving end of ridicule and none of us like it.
Wonder what the world would be like if everybody treated everybody else in the way they would like people to treat them? Oh well, Happy Holidays and all that.
You know, it's true. Ever wonder what the ignore feature is for? exactly! Oh, I
know I said some things but inside, I agree with sarah and floppy on this! you
guys treat this as if "oh I know beter" really? I'm not posting on here unless
it's tips or something interesting. This, is just Drama and for people who
dislike me... I don't give a fuck. So, post away but people are different and
are born with different disabilities. so, stop and let the girl post what she
wants to post okay?
Or if people don't like the boards, don't look at the boards.
I don't deserve to be banned, you guys do! It is called the boards because
you are "free" to post whatever you want. I thought this site is a free
community.
This was actually an important day. Mainly because my case manager she
was at the right place at the right time, and I got lucky.
Lol, how do we deserve to be banned. I'm just asking? Seriously. Go read the TOS and come back to me.
You're being mean and disrespectful. People are free to speak what they
want on the boards, or anywhere on this site for that matter. Posting a
status on facebook talking about what you had for breakfast wouldn't get you
banned.
Right, people are free to say what they want. Including me. Even if it's something you don't like.
Goes both ways. Holly's right on this point. If AppleGirl isn't going to get banned for her posts - and she damn well shouldn't, that's ridiculous - then Holly saying what she likes won't get her banned either. I don't speak up hoping people get banned. I speak up hoping that otherwise good-seeming people sometimes get their heads out of their asses.
and I do it knowing full well that someone may well be telling me the same thing one day. God knows I'm not perfect.
All I'm going to say is if some people want Apple Girl banned for her posts, they should consider they are asking the same scrutiny on their own posts.
So, if you don't want loss of freedom, let others have their freedom. No, we don't always say things the way they should be said, but, that's how it is. Freedoms taken from one should be taken from all, if you want that. I think that's Apple Girl's point. Even if I'm wrong, and it does happen, seldom, it's how I feel, and some of you that complain about her posts, told me the same thing. So, if you can't live by your own words, I suggest you mix them up with your next meal, and eat them.
Blessings
Sarah
Coming from the whiney bitch who wants people censored.
Omg, imp's post cracked me up there.
I'm not asking for her to be banned because of what she writes, more, the volume of it. It's reaching a point where she's posting topic after topic, I don't fucking care what she says in them. Just, it is getting super spammy.
And I'm still laughing at imp's post.
I dunno. I've seen way way worse spam than AppleGirl, Holly. Look at the sheer number of board posts Chelslicious has, just as an example. Thousands on thousands of them, and you'd better believe not all or even most of them are constructive or thought-provoking.
And also let's remember that, however off-target it was, Sarah's original point was that people with mental issues get called crazy, yet other epithets thrown around about other things are offensive. She wasn't so much trying to get people seriously censored as she was trying to raise awareness of that issue, on which I tend to agree with her. Now, we could drag up an argument about how effectively (or ineffectively) she did it, and there are some doubts there, but I'd not call her a whiny bitch for it either.
There are a few people here, honestly, who seem to get kicked no matter what they say or how they say it. If they aren't in lock-step with the presiding opinion, then it's dog-pile time. I find this clannish behaviour sad and troublesome, but I know I can't stop it. I just tend to call it out when I see it. I'd like to hope I don't engage in said behaviour myself, or that if I do, I usually straighten the hell up before I do any damage.
Anyway, I'd think banning Applegirl would only become remotely necessary if, say, twenty or thirty threads were all open and active, and all were basically useless. As others have definitely said, it's easy too, y'know, not read and respond. Hit page-down, or whatever key your screenreader uses to skip past a few lines of text...or skip past a couple of links till you find something more to your liking. I daresay your life here isn't so hard if your greatest Zone annoyance is the need to flick past a few topics that make you shake your head dismissively over their lack of substance.
Yeah exactly. Posting to the boards is not spam. When I was doing the
hahahas in public quick notes, that was spam because it was interphering
with people's conversations. If people weren't allowed to say what they
want on here, the boards wouldn't exist. The description below the boards
says talk about games to ice cream with our message boards.
Hmmm, Greg does have a point, and now that I think about it, that Rachel does it too when she decides to log on whenever...
RachelN92, not to be confused with yours truely. Lol
There are so many others who I won't mention because they largely can't help it due to brain injuries and so on.
Yeah, took me a sec to realize who Lakeria was talking about...but yeah, RachelN92 (or Friendly Philosophical Rachel as she used to be known) gets spammy at times. I just flick past the stuff I don't care about, myself.
I can't take it.
/me hides in the corning crying in to my hankie.
Wayne, why do you still use hankies; they were so last century. Lol
Guess I'm behind. Plushie the new term?
Lol I wouldn't have a clue. Hate hankies but I guess it's because my parents discouraged us using them.
Palm of the hand. Seat of the pants. Like that?
Shepherd Wolf, I realize that people will never get a clue. When they find out I may just have a clue, they'll get it. Most of the people I Ignored, are too set in their ways, and I got sick of fighting a losing battle. I've felt much better, since I don't see a lot of bs on here. I am by no means perfect, but some of the ones I had to Ignore, wouldn't even try to get my points. I'm glad you did.
Actually, I have major health concerns that make dealing with kids that haven't grown up yet, difficult. I don't have time, because, I have things that really matter, and my health, finances, and family are more important than getting into disagreements, where the other person is maybe eighteen, and knows they're so much smarter. So, I'm just done trying to convince anyone of anything.
Yes, I seem to bwe a target. But, if anyone I'm Ignoring responds, it's just too freaking bad. I Ignored people for my sanity, and because they are acting immature. No, not just for that reason. However, I got sick of fighting losing battles with people who don't care, like the person so upset about their friend killing himself, but can't respect others on here. I thought her losing this friend was changing her, but sad to say... It really didn't.
Let them call me a f-ing b---. You will never change their minds. See, they think they know it all. I'm smart enough to realize, I don't. And, try to admit I make mistakes. Not perfectly admitting, but I try. And, making the attempt is important.
And, if we want to start a topic on who's most annoying, maybe we should use another topic, so as not to mess up this nice person's board topic. I know it's a thought, and as I admit, I don't know everything.
Well, let's see what happebns.
Blessings,
Sarah
Yeah Rachel does get annoying with the board posts. She has all of those
games that people post to, and when people post to them, they go to the
top. I have other board posts to look at, and her stuff gets annoying. I just
scroll past it though.
Well Jesus fuckin' Christ, Buddha's useless ascetic balls, and Allah's roast pig, this original post is a labyrinth of ... nonplus.